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Children and Divorce: The Sad But Inevitable Truth
Children caught in the middle of a divorce experience a plethora of negative emotions brought on by the upheaval in their lives. Many think that they caused the problem and think that they can change it. It’s also common that they worry that their parents have stopped loving them too. There are new money problems and living conditions that are new to everyone. Most children would do anything in their power to save the marriage and stop their parents from getting divorced.
Everything has changed no matter who ends up with custody. Instead of Mom being able to stay home like she used to, she’s now forced to work, maybe even two jobs, just to make ends meet. If the non-custodial parent has been ordered to pay large child support payments, then he or she may not have money enough to pay for a decent place to live or to take the children to some of the places they went before the split. Parents may be distracted, depressed, and even cry a lot, and children pick up on every bit of it. They don’t understand why the situation is happy.
This can make it hard for them to do well in school. All he can think about is how things used to be compared to how they are now. Children don’t understand why their parents aren’t in love anymore. They think that if their parents just tried harder, they could put the family back together again, and when that doesn’t happen, they wonder why their parents don’t care how unhappy they are. Although you’ll still love them, they can’t understand that since you say you don’t love their other parent anymore
Lots of children see what it’s like in their friends’ homes and know what real marital problems are. They’ve seen things like Billy’s dad hit his mom, and they know that one time he hit her so hard her arm was broken. They think that his dad must really hate this spouse, yet the two of them are still together. They also know that it wasn’t like that at your house, and they wonder why, if your marriage wasn’t nearly as broken as their friend’s parents’ is, you aren’t together any longer. They are totally confused by all the things that are going on around them, and they don’t understand why you don’t get help in fixing the family. They may make the mistake of believing you don’t care enough about them.
No parent wants their kids to feel that way, right?
Kristie Brown writes on a variety of topics from health to technology. Check out her websites on marriage advice and stop divorce
Part 5 – Walden by Henry David Thoreau (Chs 12-15)